I've never met a happy Bully

Bullying and abuse

Peter Jaffe says: Research shows that approximately 50% of the bullying stops when we break the silence and identify the problem.

Peter Jaffe is a Professor in the Faculty of Education at the University of Western Ontario and the Academic Director of the Centre for Research on Violence Against Women & Children. He is the Director Emeritus for the Centre for Children and Families in the Justice System, which is a children's mental health centre specializing in issues which bring children and families into the justice system in London, Ontario. See Peter Jaffe's UWO website.

Music video: I've never met a happy bully

This song was written based on an interview with Peter Jaffe (shown above-right). See also the music video Feeding the lizard in your brain.

Lyrics/video by George Gadanidis. Music by Ian Parliament, Ryan Casselman, Emily Parliament & Ricardo Scucuglia. Download the mp3 file.

I’m afraid
...... I call you names
To leave my house                                         
...... I hit you as you walk by
To make friends                                             
...... I see your tears
To go to school                                              
...... Where is my empathy?
It’s not safe                                        
...... Why don’t I feel it?
It’s not safe                
...... Why don’t I feel it?

Silence, silence, silence
Bullying, abuse
Silence, silence, silence
Feed on silence

I live in the dark                                             
...... I see you trying to hide
Foul ugly language                                         
...... I see your fear
Pushing and hitting                                        
...... I feel strong but
Tension and fear                                            
...... I’m not happy
I can’t learn like this                                      
...... Why am I not happy?
I can’t learn like this                                      
...... Why am I not happy?

I’ve never ever met
A happy bully
I’ve never ever met
A happy bully

I see the bullying
I say nothing
I’m afraid
So many bystanders
Doing nothing to help
Doing nothing to help

I’m breaking the silence
I’m naming the problem
I’m saying it out loud
I’m calling it what it is
The problem is you
The problem is you

Bully, bully, bully
You’re a bully
Bully, bully, bully
You’re a bully

I don’t want to be afraid
I want to hear laughter
Feel my freedom
Out of your shadow
Live in the light
Live in the light

I’m breaking the silence
I’m naming the problem
I’m saying it out loud
I’m calling it what it is
The problem is you
The problem is you

Bully, bully, bully
You’re a bully
Bully, bully, bully
You’re a bully